Why Do We Do It?…..

When you see a Greyhound dog, do you ever remark, “Why would you ever want that one, it’s too skinny and not very attractive?”  When you see a Bulldog, do you ever comment, “Their too heavy, I wouldn’t want to be seen with that one?’  What about a Poodle, “Oh look at all that messy curly hair, who let them out like that?”  Oh and let’s not forget the Dalmation, “That one couldn’t find his way out of a hole, stay away from it”.  Hmmmm?


Bear with me here!  I have never ever heard a comment like that.  All I ever hear is, “Oh, they are so cute”, or “Your dog is beautiful!”  We never seem to criticize the animal kingdom, all God’s creatures are beautiful in their own way.  We travel just to see these majestic animals in their own habitat, visit zoo’s to admire and take pictures galore of our favorites, or sit for hours in a field just to catch a glimpse of a rare bird. Face it, we accept them at face value, just the way they are! Right?, of course right!

Why then do we do it to each other?  We are God’s creation too, yes?  We are all individually beautiful, talented, and praise worthy beings!  Why do we pick each other apart?, to make ourselves feel better?  Sadly, that is probably partly true.  Why can’t we celebrate our differences, enjoy our diversity, have tolerance for others individuality?  We all bring a special brand of personality to everything we do, but so many are judged by their appearance, or nationality, or religion before they are even given an opportunity to be introduced.  Introduced you ask, Yeah introduced to you, to a social setting, to a new job, as a new neighbor, etc.

There are so many reasons, conditions, contributors that come into play.  Everyone has a different set to deal with.  We don’t wear signs announcing, “I have a hypo thyroid”, “I have been abused”, “This is my first day of being able to walk in 3 years”.  My the list could go on forever!  We all have a story.  We all work with the set of circumstances we are dealt and strive for all the love, happiness, peace, achievement and friendship we deserve.


from counseling.gatech.edu

Please spend just one day, to start, smiling at strangers, greeting a passerby with a warm “Good Day”,  finding the beauty in your surroundings, complimenting a stranger or even a loved one during your day, even a “That color looks fantastic on you!” will light up a strangers face.  It is contagious, it should be contagious, think of it as a social infection – a powerful one at that.  A super power!  With just that first day, not only will you feel the warmth of a smile returned, a kind remark to your compliment,  an opening to a conversation with a complete stranger, it becomes an infectious impulse to look for the good and positive, and force the negative away, far away.  Teach it to your children too!

Sorry for the rant, I am striving to head my grandchildren in a positive direction.  Keegan has ACC, it is not a visible disability.  She is judged all the time because her peers (and their parents) can’t see it.  She learns at a slower pace, but dammit, she gets there.  She is in a regular classroom, due to the fact that she is too smart for special ed.  The teasing and hurtful words, I believe, are taught at HOME.  Everything that comes out of the mouth of babes, is just regurgitation of all the nasty, ugly comments they hear their parents make.  Monkey see, monkey do syndrome.

Keegan is working so hard this summer to improve her math and reading, so that she isn’t referred to as the “dummy”.  She is amazing to me,  Yoda would say “Strong she is in determination and perseverance!”  The school has basically just been pushing her through each year, she is probably just under 2 years behind.  But, when the school had given up, so did Keegan for a while.  Together Keegan and I are striving to catch up as much a we can.  Mark my words, She Will Do It!  I have seen her achieve what ever she has set her sites for in the past.

Please, think about my words as the 4th of July approaches .  We need to be kinder to each other.  What makes us a strong country IS our diversity!  With much love….Cyn




About designbycyn

Sonoma County, California ceramic enthusiasts Cyn and Steven Gradek have worked in the clay medium since 1996. They had a retail store where they held classes and provided the essentials for fellow ceramic enthusiasts. The business evolved into producing for other retail outlets and artist. Which quickly grew and they closed the retail storefront and concentrated on the wholesale business. With their 3 children raised and on their own, they had time to pursue their own creativity. Cyn learned how to embroider from her Grandma Cirner at a young age. After that she found sewing, cross stitching, crocheting, well you get the jist, LOL. She hasn't met a craft that she hasn't liked. Blogging was suggested by her youngest daughter, Colleen. At first it was a battle to get her to try it, but eventually Cyn started to enjoy the exercise. The blog on Cyn's website designbycyn.com was limiting, so Colleen got her started with Wordpress. Hope you enjoy her Adventures with Creativity!
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